Planning is so important to living well with an illness and approaching death
However, if the plans are not communicated there can be a risk of:
- fear and upset , while alive or after death
- shock if someone has made assumptions about aspects of medical care (for example) with which are incorrect
The aim of conversations may be:
- very specific, to pass on information,
- or more about emotional support and enjoyment, either immediately or at some time in the future after death.
A conversation can help:
- to live with illness well
- to die well
- to make sure your wishes for care, support and medical instructions are known
- to build a bank of emotional memories
- to communicate the administrative practicalities, such as where documents are kept and what’s in them
Thinking through what you want to say, and how you might be heard, beforehand can improve the outcome from the conversation.